BY: HAJA HAWA KOROMA
Attraction is a very powerful force, it draws the attention of a person like a magnet, the reason why Diamond is the most expensive, most wanted and most admired mineral in the world is because of its attraction, it’s captivating, unique and rare that’s why almost everybody wants Diamonds.
This too applies in a relationship. As a woman be as captivating, unique and rare as a Diamond for your man’s attraction. Most women thinks as long as they have got the guy, they don’t need to seduce him anymore after all the guy knows they have a good heart and a good character and productive therefore they don’t need to attract their men on a daily basis because they fell in love with the inner part of them so they would love them regardless of their appearance.
What so many women fail to understand is, before a guy gets to know your habits, character and virtues, what drew his attention to you in the first place is attraction. Yes he may end up falling in love with you because of your virtues but that doesn’t mean he does not want to see what he first saw in u that attracted him.
Women, especially the ones that are married and have given birth to a kid or more, the fact that your man is legally yours and you don’t have to worry about him leaving you or whatever, does not mean that you should stop attracting him.
So many women makes excuses like; ‘I’m so tired from taking care of the kids and the home’ I’ve got kids why do I need to make myself up I’m too old for that now’ ‘if he wants to go to the streets let him go, after all even if I go through the trouble of looking good for him he won’t notice me so I might as well just relax and stop looking after myself to please him’.
These are some of the things we say to ourselves in order justify not attracting our husbands. Yes all of these words we tell ourselves makes sense, it is so tiring to look after kids and look after ourselves especially when you don’t have a helper.
That’s why as a partner, men should help their wives with raising the kids so their wives will have room to look after themselves too.
So many homes have problems because of this, after spending a whole day at work your husband will want to get home and see a wife that attracts him.
Ladies seduce your husband’s even after marriage, the fact that you are married to him does not mean you should relax from seducing him, entice your husbands, and make him desire you so as to ignite that spark in your relationship.
Send him sexy text messages when he’s at work, send crazy photos of you that will urge him to get home as soon as he’s done with work, just because you are married doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be playful with your husband, don’t be a boring wife. Wear sexy lingerie’s and always ensure to take a nice shower and smell nice before going to bed with your husband.
Attraction is not only a visual thing, but smelling nice is also a form of attraction. It doesn’t matter whether you are slim or a plus size woman you can be attractive both ways. So many women do no love their bodies because they may have put on a lot of weight from child birth, stretch marks and cellulites. Some may not be confident with their bodies because they are too slim and doesn’t have large hips or sized breasts and they feel they are not attractive. Let me tell you this, every woman is beautiful no matter the shape or size. The first step is to feel confident with your body because you have to first feel attractive in order to attract someone. Self-confidence is super attractive.
Those stretch marks are a part of you, they are natural and if you got them from child bearing, you are the most beautiful thing because you got them from a worthy cause, so feel attractive with them. Wear clothes that compliments your body structure as that will enhance your confidence and attractiveness, do your hair, be it natural or otherwise just look neat. You don’t have to go through extreme means to look sexy and attractive, even the things you can afford will make you look super attractive just look neat and take care of yourself.
If you don’t love makeup its ok, rock your natural looks, if you do love make up its fine also but just know you are naturally beautiful with or without make up, make up just enhances that beauty. Do what works for you, the bottom line is you look good, smell good and attractive. Men take care of the women in your lives as you also play key role in boosting their self-confidence by noticing the efforts they put into looking good for you and providing them with their necessary needs.
But the most attractive woman is the one who believes in herself, looks good not only for a man but for herself as well, takes care of herself and do not allow herself to be defined by any situation, circumstance or a person. That type of attraction can get anywhere and you will feel like you own that place, so aspire to be that kind of woman that attracts and doesn’t need validation from anyone.
