By: Haja Hawa Koroma
Celibacy is a voluntary vow of sexual abstinence. In some cases, it can also be a promise to remain unmarried forever or for a long period of time. Celibacy can look different for each person, so there’s no single way to practice it. Some people abstain from all sexual activity (including penetrative and non-penetrative sex), while others engage in things like outer course.
Although celibacy is usually associated with religion, there are a number of other reasons why someone might choose to remain celibate.
Few things are as personal as the decisions you make about your sex life. Choosing when to have sex and with whom is a private process, and everyone has their own choices about sex. Some people enjoy a full sex life, while others choose to abstain from some or all sexual activity. There are benefits to both options.
Some people who choose to be celibate find out that not having sex helps their mental health. Some say that sex was a distraction or preoccupation for them and found that abstinence helps to keep their minds clear. Other people find that sex causes them stress, and they’re happier not worrying about it.
For some, celibacy is a way to feel more empowered. It can help move their attention away from relationships or sex and turn it inward, allowing them to focus on personal development.
For others, it could be a medical decision following a diagnosis of an STI as a way to prevent transmission. For those who are struggling with sex addiction, celibacy could offer as a way to recover.
Some people choose to be celibate in order to provide space for them to get to know their partner outside of sexual activity. It may also help them to further understand the difference between physical and emotional attraction. It may free up more time to focus on their career, friendships, or family.
Because celibacy is a major life decision, those who choose to be celibate often spend careful time considering the decision before jumping right in.
