By: Haja Hawa Koroma
Showering a loved one with affection and attention is how most people show they care and are deeply in love with someone. But most people tend to take these people for granted and maltreat them in more ways than one.
Most people crave love, affection and attention, but when someone comes along and showers them with all this especially if it’s the one person they feel they don’t need it from, instead of making it known to the person, they hurt them and take their love for granted.
We’ve all been at a point where the wrong person loves us the way we want to be loved and the one person we crave to receive that kind of love from does the opposite. Yet still, we stay glued to them regardless.
And that one person that loves us genuinely, instead of being blunt and telling them the facts that we can’t love them back, most people hold on to these people just because they love how they make them feel, and they love the fact that they can do whatever they want with them, thus taking them for granted.
I know it is not easy to love someone just because they love you. Love is a very tricky thing and sometimes we don’t get to choose the people we love as much as they love us, because our heart wants what it wants.
So instead of just hurting that one person that loves you so much and treats you the way you deserve to be treated, just because you are in love with another. Why not let them go and focus on the person you love.
I know some will say ‘I’ve made it known to them more times than once but they refuse to listen. Yes, he/she refuses to listen because he/she just can’t switch off their feelings or love for you. But don’t take them for granted, don’t give them mixed signals and raise their hopes if you have no intention whatsoever to date them, don’t use them as a means to an end and most importantly don’t use them as your rebound guy. This means, that whenever you are having problems in your relationship you act as if you are giving them a chance and when they finally believe you are in a relationship with them, you run back to your partner the first chance you get and leave them broken.
Even in marriages, spouses tend to do this. Having one-sided affection in a marriage is wrong too. When one party is putting in all the work to make the marriage work, it can be so exhausting. Marriage is teamwork and you both should put in the effort in making it work.
Most people only show affection to their partner when they notice their partner slowly drifting away. They put up an act of being affectionate towards them just because they want them under their radar and want them to continue showering them with the affection they are used to. It is an act of manipulation they put up, masking it as an act of love.
As much as the heart wants what it wants, being in a one-sided relationship is not healthy at all. Love who loves you, I know it is not easy, but in some cases, if you walk out of that relationship where you put in all the work and you are still not appreciated, and you try giving a chance to that one person you sure love and cares about you, even if you don’t love them right away, you might love them eventually cause love doesn’t happen in a day.
You don’t necessarily need to be in a relationship with them right away, but try being friends with them and you never know what that might lead to. But it is wrong to take someone for granted cause it is not a great feeling. You wouldn’t someone to do that to you, so why do it to someone else?
