By: Haja Hawa Koroma
Most times we get so frustrated when we try so hard to show our partner’s how much we love them but they don’t seem to appreciate our love for them. Showing someone you love them is different from showing them love in their love language. Yes! Everyone has his/her love language and you must learn your partner’s love language is preset to prevent problems in the relationship.
One key to a healthy relationship is understanding how best to express your love to your partner, loving them in a way that resonates with them and fulfils their needs.
There are times when we feel like we put so much effort into our relationships and it always seems like we aren’t on the same page as our partner. Whether we show them, love, by doing extra jobs around the house, expressing how we feel about them, or giving them a big hug at the end of a hard day, nothing seems to work. And all our efforts always seem fruitless.
The way you communicate love for one another must be done in your spouse’s love language’. Because every person receives and understands love in a specific language and what makes us feel love isn’t necessarily the same for our partner.
Better understanding the love language of your partner, and identifying how they show us love and how we should show them, love, strengthens the bond and communication in the relationship between you two.
Love is a word everyone uses and a concept sought by all. In marriage we make a covenant commitment to love each other whole-heartedly through our actions. We profess it, we show it, we receive it, and we feel it, at least that’s what we hope for. Love is not something you can check off a list, it’s a way of living, thinking, and doing.
Showing love is vastly different from saying the word. Assuming you know your spouse’s love language, you should also ensure to speak it.
Some people’s love language is care, some it’s buying them gifts, some people are physical therefore their love language is physical touch, like randomly touching them not just in the bedroom, others like hearing words of affirmations from their partner’s, like saying sweet things to them now and then, reassuring them of your love and affection for them and so much more.
Knowing your partner’s love language allows you to meet their needs before they even express them. You are less likely to have miscommunication issues if you know how to reach the other person on their level best. This interchange will grow your relationship on deeper levels.
Once you know your partner’s love language, it will enable you to use it frequently to demonstrate your love for them. Understanding when your partner uses their love language to show appreciation will help you recognize their efforts to love you.
Knowing how they express love will help you to see when they are trying to please you. For example, if your partner’s love language is physical touch, you will understand that they are showing you their highest form of love when they extend this affection to you. However, it is also essential to communicate to your partner how you feel love so they can also learn to show your love with your preference.
Making an effort to reach your loved ones on their level will pay big dividends to your relationship. The value will speak for itself once you begin to apply the principles on how you express love and communicate their needs. You and your partner deserve to be loved by each other in the best way possible. It pays to take the time to explore and study each other to figure out how to connect best and express love.
